Sunday, September 23, 2012

I Need a Hero(ine)


I am not afraid to admit that I jump on the book bandwagons.  I devoured the "Twilight" and "Hunger Games" series.  They sit on my bookshelf, looking deceptively pristine in their dust jackets, hiding the dog-eared and sometimes dinner-smeared pages that drive my other book loving friends to teeth grinding.  I enjoyed these, perhaps junk food, reads immensely and regret nothing.  At least where entertainment is concerned.

However, "Twilight" and "The Hunger Games" are the perpetuators of a trend in literature that has run like a poisoned vein through my reading catalogue.  Both series introduce a heroine that overcomes obstacles far beyond those any of us face on a daily basis, I would hope.  Bella from "Twilight" falls in love with a vampire and is plunged into a world of superhuman battles.  The "Hunger Games’" Katniss is ripped from her home and family to literally compete for her life in an incredibly vast gladiator-type arena.  The obstacles for both as they pursue their objectives are gigantic in proportion, and both risk plenty.  The storytelling is thrilling, the love scenes are steamy, the women are focused.  And now, the other shoe. 

I don’t like either of them. 

I have absolutely no desire to have coffee with either of these women.  If I had to spend a weekend with them, I’d probably lock them in the hall closet on day one.  I think the problem is two-pronged. 

The first nausea-inducing prong: these women are incredibly lacking in empathy.  Bella bemoans her situation with her undead boyfriend, but doesn’t seem to give much thought to what he’s going through.  I mean, the girl runs down an alley to get mugged and assaulted for the sake of forcing him into coming to her rescue.  And this poor boy Jacob, who follows her around like a puppy dog (pun intended), is only being used as a warm body to fight the loneliness Bella feels when she is dumped by the aforementioned fanged boyfriend.  I do not care how many vamps are trying to kill Bella, Jacob is clearly the victim here.

Katniss seems to take a page right out of Bella’s book when she deals with Peeta.  Yes, I understand that in the first book she was trying to get them both out alive and I can let the manipulation of his feelings by her slide, but she spends the better part of the rest of their young adult lives sleeping in the same bed with a boy that is in love with her and thinking about another guy.  It’s fine for the Desperate Housewives, that’s who they are!  Katniss is supposed to be a heroine.  I’m not exactly waving her banner here.

The second prong stems from the first in a way (perhaps this is a single prong with a prong offshoot rather than two prongs on their own), and this is where I turn my glare directly on the writers.  Stephanie and Suzanne, listen up.  I find the idea that a heroine needs to constantly have a love interest reproachful.  You could argue that "Twilight" is a love story so it’s going to be centered around love.  Valid, but cheap.  I would dig a moment when Bella did something, anything that didn’t completely revolve around Edward.  It would be a nice change up.  Especially in the second book, which is my least favorite as she spends almost the entire novel crying about Edward.  When she jumped off the cliff I thought, Thank god.  Then, I realized there were pages left.  This is supposed to be contemporary literature.  I do not believe that a contemporary woman need make every move in her life dependent on how it does or does not affect her partner.

Katniss and Suzanne are the greater scoundrels here.  My understanding is that "The Hunger Games" is about social and political unrest, a tyrannical government, and an average girl from the equivalent of “the country” being pulled into the middle of it all to be used as a pawn for both sides until she finally finds a way to truly become a patriot.  Well, what about that means that she needs to simultaneously be sorting out her feelings in a love triangle?  When I think about being in a situation in which I have been blatantly told by the most powerful man in my country that I belong to him and will conduct my life the way he sees fit, I’m not really sure I’d be worried about the boys next door.  Granted, I have never been in that situation, but when I was in danger of failing Math 102 in college, I had no time to wonder if the guy I was flirting with in Poli Sci would finally ask me out today.  Kids, I was too busy trying to figure out what pie had to do with numbers, and I think Katniss would have been a little preoccupied with the civil-freaking-war that was happening.


Now, I’ve beat up Stephanie Meyer and Suzanne Collins plenty on this one (and want to reiterate that I did, in fact, eat these books up with a spoon and enjoyed the way I held my breath during the first kisses and-ahem-other events in the personal lives of the characters), and I want to take a moment to sing the praises of another author that I believe is writing female characters that I would actually want my maybe-one-day-daughter to admire.  Tamora Pierce is a phenomenal writer of young adult literature.  So phenomenal that I (the tax-paying, lease signing, phone bill avoiding twenty-six-year-old) run out to the bookstore whenever her newest novel hits the shelf.

Except for a particular early series, Pierce writes exclusively female central characters.  They live in a time and place that exist in an alternate universe and each series ties into the others in an incredibly genius display of very long form storytelling.  Here is how Pierce’s characters measure up on the two prongs:

Empathy in spades.  Every character Pierce writes from the orphan with the ability to communicate with animals ("Wild Magic Quartet") to the little girls that aspire to become knights of the realm ("The Lioness" and "Protector of the Small" Quartets) is incredibly selfless.  They consider how their actions will effect those around them and try valiantly to always do what is right, rather than what their hormonal girl brains tell them to.  They think clearly through a problem rather than just throwing themselves at it in a fit of passion.

And the love interests.  Pierce can still get your heart a-fluttering when her heroines step into the arms of someone special, but the difference is that some of them go entire books in their series without having a romantic interest in their lives and guess what… the story doesn’t fall apart!!!  Those are some of my favorite books!  As a woman trying to make a career and a life for myself in the jungle of New York City, it’s like finding a glass of water in the desert to see a heroine that doesn’t need to be battling affairs of the heart while she’s battling a literal dragon!  Greater still, the objects of these heroines affections don’t treat them like fragile dolls built for saving (Bella) or a paragon to be reached (Katniss).  They respect them as partners and strong professionals.  Where in Manhattan can I pick me up some of that?

We are at an odd moment in our nation’s history.  It is a time when the rights of women are suddenly and strangely being challenged.  We look to literature for hope.  We see in the lives of these heroines what we hope to have ourselves.  And I hope I can find success by my own efforts, achieve it in a way that is respectful to those who are around me, and that one day, apart from that, I can find a partner that will see me as the strong and loving woman I aspire to be.  That’s the heroine I need.

Sunday, September 2, 2012

Back to Blogging/Livin' in a Modern Age

So, this is my first blog post in well over a year.  It doesn't mean that I thought I figured it all out and then realized I hadn't.  It doesn't mean I was happy for a while and now I'm not.  It doesn't even mean I was depressed for a while and now I'm not.  It means that life happened.  Like whoa.  And eventually, I forgot this thing even existed until I had to submit a blog sample for a job I was applying to.  And so here we are.  The mighty return to Sterner Stuff:

Hands up:  Who hasn't made a personal phone call in months?  I'm not talking about, "Hey, you aren't answering my texts.  Are you getting them?"  And also, your parents don't count because they are from a generation where phone calls were still a major form of communication.  My point:  the only time in months that I have had a legitimate phone conversation with someone on a personal level was when I was stuck on a layover in St. Louis for three hours, and even then I had my trusty iPad out and was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed as I was talking.  And why is that?  Because we live in this Fahrenheit 451 era where we need to be talking to twelve people about twelve different things while we're checking our credit card statements with a re-run of Community going on in the background as we watch a YouTube video featuring all the clips of Kurt and Blaine kissing on Glee... not that we did that today...

I spent the entire day, except for forcing myself to go grocery shopping and treating myself to brunch with a book this morning, in my apartment and I still had conversations with 23 people.  And that's just the emails/facebook messages/text messages/tweets/OKcupid messages (we all do it) that had a back-and-forth conversation going.  There were many more of those sent that I haven't gotten a response from yet (and in the case of OKcupid, but hopefully not in the case of the other social medias, might never get a response from).  I talked to less people than that at a real live party last night!  It's a wonder, an incredible moment in the development of communication between human beings, but I have yet to hear from anyone whether it is actually a GOOD or BAD thing.  I know the terms are sweeping generalizations, but if we can definitively say that Hitler is bad, negating any time he may have held the door for someone or let Eva have the last stick of gum in a pack, and Ghandi is good, assuming he never farted and blamed it on the dog, then I'm sure we can do the same for the age of digital communication!

Let's make a pros and cons list.

PRO:  I can take my time responding so that I know I'm using (and spelling) every word correctly and crafting the exact tone to appropriately react to any situation.
CON:  No matter how carefully I feel I've crafted the response, since the person on the other end is reading words in black and white without my inflection to indicate sincerity versus passive aggression, my words are often misconstrued.

PRO:  No one can see me. Which is good because I cannot control my facial expressions.  And also, sometimes I'm not wearing clothing.
CON:  When I'm talking to attractive people that also aren't wearing clothing, I can't see them either.

PRO:  I can get a remarkable amount of work done in a small amount of time.
CON:  I can waste a remarkable amount of time googling stupid stuff when I should be working.

PRO:  I get to stay connected with people I might never get to see again.
CON: I have to stay connected with people I might never have to see again.

PRO:  Everything is practically in real time.  When something happens with one of my friends, I immediately know.  Often through multiple media forms.
CON:  I miss having a friend tell me either in person or on the phone.  I'm not really with them, experiencing their joy, when it's via text.  It's so amazing to walk up to the restaurant you're meeting them at and have them burst out of the door with news that they've had to hold on to for hours waiting to see you.

Okay, I see it.  I know.  This isn't as easy as Hitler V. Ghandi.  Digital media and its place in our lives is much bigger than war and peace, clearly.  So, here is my take away:  It's a tool.  Not like Todd Akin is a tool (a whole toolbox, really), it's a practical tool that we as humans can utilize to accomplish tasks. Digital communication can bridge gaps that were impossible or very difficult to traverse in the past.  It streamlines our interactions and makes much of our work more effective.

HOWEVER, I think it is very important to be sure that we don't forget what it means to actually be with one another.  I was on a cruise for a week with no phone and no internet (not because they didn't have access, but because it costs $0.65/min to go online and mama's not trying to break the bank to check on her Farmville) and it was so wonderful to have everyone making eye contact throughout dinner instead of making googly eyes at their phones.  It was even a pleasure to have to plan exactly when and where you would meet up with someone later in the night.

Once in a while, try to unplug and really be with the person you're with.  I know it seems like the world might end if you turn off your iPhone, but I promise the chances of that are slim.

Hope to literally see you soon.

And as a parting gift, two of my favorite people I don't actually know personally not actually texting each other: